I have compiled a list of resources that represent the best help for me and my marriage, as well as resources I know have made a difference in many others throughout my many years of experience as coach, pastor, and counselor.
Make sure you get the most out of these by diving into them with an open mind and heard, and a willingness to put to action what you learn.
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Everything is great when you’re in love! But life has a way of turning that down. You start drifting apart, conflicts arise, you get busy with other things, and then you realize the quality of your connection and the closeness you once experienced has diminished. Some couples call it quits and walk away. But you can do something about this.
You can TURN IT UP! and revive your relationship or marriage. TURN IT UP! will give you five commitments to make and five skills to learn that will teach you how to strengthen your connection and grow closer to each other again. When you turn it up regularly, you really can have the kind of marriage you want and have it last a lifetime.
Counseling or therapy tends to look backward to heal the hurts of your past that are impacting you today. Coaching looks forward to where you want to be and supports you as you create and implement the action plan that will get you there. Coaching is not…
One of the biggest mistakes a lot of people make in relationships and life is not asking for help. Asking for help is for the strong Asking for help is hard! We don’t want to admit that we have a problem we can’t solve or a need that we cannot meet. We don’t want to …
Have you ever had your spouse say to you after trying to talk to you, “You just don’t get it.” They are not saying you are stupid; they are saying that they don’t feel you understand them. Or have you ever been…
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What do you say when your spouse brings you pain that you can’t fix?
Sometimes you don’t need the perfect words. You need presence.
There will be moments when your spouse doesn’t ...need advice, answers, or a solution. They simply need to know:
“I’m here. You’re not alone.”
📖 “God comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble.” — 2 Corinthians 1:3–4
It’s called the ministry of presence—and sometimes showing up, listening, and staying close is one of the most loving things you can do.
You don’t have to fix your spouse’s pain to help carry it with them. 🙏
Want help learning how to show up for your spouse when they’re hurting? Visit TurnItUp.coach to schedule a FREE 30-minute strategy call.
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When You Can’t Fix It, Be There.
What do you say when your spouse brings you pain that you can’t fix? ...
What do you say when your spouse brings you pain that you can’t fix?
Sometimes you don’t need the perfect words. You need presence.
There will be moments when your spouse doesn’t ...need advice, answers, or a solution. They simply need to know:
“I’m here. You’re not alone.”
📖 “God comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble.” — 2 Corinthians 1:3–4
It’s called the ministry of presence—and sometimes showing up, listening, and staying close is one of the most loving things you can do.
You don’t have to fix your spouse’s pain to help carry it with them. 🙏
Want help learning how to show up for your spouse when they’re hurting? Visit TurnItUp.coach to schedule a FREE 30-minute strategy call.
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Husbands, Listening IS Helping ❤️
Do you feel like you’re failing your wife every time you don’t have an ...
Do you feel like you’re failing your wife every time you don’t have an answer?
You don’t need a solution in your back pocket to be helpful.
Sometimes your wife doesn’t need ...you to fix it. She needs you to be with her in it.
📖 “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” — Romans 12:15
Notice it doesn’t say, “Fix those who mourn.”
Your presence, your attention, and your willingness to listen may be exactly what she needs most.
And when you stop believing you have to fix everything, the pressure disappears—and you can finally listen.
Want help putting this into practice in your marriage? Visit TurnItUp.coach to schedule a FREE 30-minute strategy call.
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Why You Get Defensive When Your Wife Points Something Out (And How to Stop)
Do you struggle with defensiveness in relationships, getting defensive ...
Do you struggle with defensiveness in relationships, getting defensive the moment your spouse points out something you missed? I'm Kelly DuPee, a Christian marriage coach and police chaplain, and in ...this video I'll show you why that happens and give you a simple, five-step filter that stops it before it turns into a fight.
In this video you will learn:
- Why a completely neutral comment from your spouse can suddenly feel like an accusation
- The real story from my own backyard that could have turned into exactly that kind of fight
- The difference between defending the story you told yourself and responding to what your spouse actually said
- A five-step filter, starting with "is this information or an attack," that improves communication in marriage and stops defensiveness before it starts
- What Proverbs 18:13, Proverbs 18:15, Proverbs 15:1, Proverbs 27:17, and James 1:19 actually teach about receiving feedback without a fight
If you've ever gotten defensive over something small, this video will change how you respond the next time it happens.
Kelly DuPee is a Christian marriage coach, ordained pastor, and author who helps couples avoid the pain of divorce so that they can have the marriage God wants them to have. He holds a Master's degree in theology and a Bachelor's degree in psychology, a combination that allows him to offer both biblically grounded and research-based solutions to marriage challenges. After 35 years serving as an associate pastor at a megachurch, Kelly stepped into full-time Christian marriage coaching while continuing his ministry as an ordained pastor and active police chaplain serving his local department and community. His chaplaincy work has equipped him to help couples and individuals process traumatic experiences, de-escalate conflict, communicate more effectively, and grieve loss. Married to his wife Carrie for almost 39 years, Kelly has coached hundreds of couples from across the United States and internationally. His approach is practical, faith-based, and built on nearly four decades of walking with real people through real marriage struggles.
Disclosure: I have an affiliate marketing relationship with Amazon. I get paid a small commission if you buy any of the books I recommend by clicking on them from my site. I never recommend a book that I have not read myself and found helpful. The books I recommend have helped me tremendously and I hope they do the same for you.
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