Helpful Tools

I have compiled a list of resources that represent the best help for me and my marriage, as well as resources I know have made a difference in many others throughout my many years of experience as coach, pastor, and counselor.

Make sure you get the most out of these by diving into them with an open mind and heard, and a willingness to put to action what you learn.

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Everything is great when you’re in love! But life has a way of turning that down. You start drifting apart, conflicts arise, you get busy with other things, and then you realize the quality of your connection and the closeness you once experienced has diminished. Some couples call it quits and walk away. But you can do something about this.

You can TURN IT UP! and revive your relationship or marriage. TURN IT UP! will give you five commitments to make and five skills to learn that will teach you how to strengthen your connection and grow closer to each other again. When you turn it up regularly, you really can have the kind of marriage you want and have it last a lifetime.

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Coaching Marriage

What is Coaching

Counseling or therapy tends to look backward to heal the hurts of your past that are impacting you today. Coaching looks forward to where you want to be and supports you as you create and implement the action plan that will get you there. Coaching is not…

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Coaching Marriage

Ask for help

One of the biggest mistakes a lot of people make in relationships and life is not asking for help. Asking for help is for the strong Asking for help is hard! We don’t want to admit that we have a problem we can’t solve or a need that we cannot meet. We don’t want to …

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Communication Marriage

How to help someone feel understood

Have you ever had your spouse say to you after trying to talk to you, “You just don’t get it.” They are not saying you are stupid; they are saying that they don’t feel you understand them. Or have you ever been…

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e-Book

I have prepared an e-book with FIVE BEST COMMUNICATION TIPS FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE that I will deliver to you right in your email inbox. Please make sure you get access to my exclusive e-book by clicking on the button below.

Videos

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Stop Fighting to WIN and Start Fighting for THIS Instead!

You're NOT opposing teams! 🚫⚔️ Genesis 2:24 says "two become ONE" - so why are you fighting each other instead of FOR each other? 🤝✨ The game-changer question: "How do ...we protect our unity right now?" Being right means NOTHING if your marriage loses! 💔 God designed marriage for CONNECTION, not competition! 🙏💍 Ready to transform your fights into unity? This biblical mindset shift changes EVERYTHING! Type GUIDE for my FREE communication toolkit! 👇 #ChristianMarriage #BiblicalMarriage #MarriageGoals #OneFlesh #ChristianCouples #MarriageUnity #GodlyMarriage #MarriageAdvice #FaithAndMarriage #ChristianLife #MarriageCoach[+] Show More

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Stop Fighting to WIN and Start Fighting for THIS Instead!

You're NOT opposing teams! 🚫⚔️ Genesis 2:24 says "two become ONE" - so ...

You're NOT opposing teams! 🚫⚔️ Genesis 2:24 says "two become ONE" - so why are you fighting each other instead of FOR each other? 🤝✨ The game-changer question: "How do ...we protect our unity right now?" Being right means NOTHING if your marriage loses! 💔 God designed marriage for CONNECTION, not competition! 🙏💍 Ready to transform your fights into unity? This biblical mindset shift changes EVERYTHING! Type GUIDE for my FREE communication toolkit! 👇 #ChristianMarriage #BiblicalMarriage #MarriageGoals #OneFlesh #ChristianCouples #MarriageUnity #GodlyMarriage #MarriageAdvice #FaithAndMarriage #ChristianLife #MarriageCoach[+] Show More

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The Secret to LETTING GO of Hurt and Finding FREEDOM

How and Why to Forgive by Kelly DuPee - Pastor, Police Chaplain, ...

How and Why to Forgive by Kelly DuPee - Pastor, Police Chaplain, Christian Marriage Coach
In this video, I discuss the important topic of forgiveness and its role in healing from ...deep hurt caused by others. I explain why forgiveness is essential for followers of Jesus and provide five compelling reasons to embrace it. I also outline actionable steps to help you forgive those who have wronged you, even when it feels impossible. By following these steps, you can find freedom from the prison of hurt and bitterness, and improve your relationships with others and with God.

Want to improve the communication in your marriage? Here's the link to my free Couple's Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide

00:00 Introduction: Facing Life's Devastating Blows
00:37 Understanding Hurt and God's Healing
01:22 The Power of Forgiveness
02:01 Five Reasons to Forgive
05:35 Steps to Forgive
08:54 Conclusion: Embracing Forgiveness

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The 5 R's of an Apology and Why they Matter. Here's the link: https://youtu.be/kKUgGgV2M9c

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The Biblical 'Walk Away' Rule That Saves Marriages (It's NOT What You Think!)

Think walking away is giving up? WRONG! 🚫 The secret? "I need 10 ...

Think walking away is giving up? WRONG! 🚫 The secret? "I need 10 minutes to cool down, then let's talk" - it's biblical wisdom that actually works! 📖✨ This ...isn't avoidance, it's MATURITY. Stop the dam from breaking and save your relationship! 🛡️💕 Ready to calm the storm in your marriage? Type GUIDE for my FREE communication toolkit! 👇 #ChristianMarriage #BiblicalWisdom #MarriageConflict #MarriageGoals #ChristianCouples #ProverbsWisdom #MarriageAdvice #FaithBasedMarriage #ConflictResolution #GodlyMarriage #MarriageCoach[+] Show More

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Books

Please make sure to access my curated list of books in the link below.

Turn It Up!: How to have the lifelong marriage that you really want

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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert

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The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

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Disclosure: I have an affiliate marketing relationship with Amazon. I get paid a small commission if you buy any of the books I recommend by clicking on them from my site. I never recommend a book that I have not read myself and found helpful. The books I recommend have helped me tremendously and I hope they do the same for you.