I have compiled a list of resources that represent the best help for me and my marriage, as well as resources I know have made a difference in many others throughout my many years of experience as coach, pastor, and counselor.
Make sure you get the most out of these by diving into them with an open mind and heard, and a willingness to put to action what you learn.
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Everything is great when you’re in love! But life has a way of turning that down. You start drifting apart, conflicts arise, you get busy with other things, and then you realize the quality of your connection and the closeness you once experienced has diminished. Some couples call it quits and walk away. But you can do something about this.
You can TURN IT UP! and revive your relationship or marriage. TURN IT UP! will give you five commitments to make and five skills to learn that will teach you how to strengthen your connection and grow closer to each other again. When you turn it up regularly, you really can have the kind of marriage you want and have it last a lifetime.
Counseling or therapy tends to look backward to heal the hurts of your past that are impacting you today. Coaching looks forward to where you want to be and supports you as you create and implement the action plan that will get you there. Coaching is not…
One of the biggest mistakes a lot of people make in relationships and life is not asking for help. Asking for help is for the strong Asking for help is hard! We don’t want to admit that we have a problem we can’t solve or a need that we cannot meet. We don’t want to …
Have you ever had your spouse say to you after trying to talk to you, “You just don’t get it.” They are not saying you are stupid; they are saying that they don’t feel you understand them. Or have you ever been…
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Your Spouse Can Tell the Difference Between Real Repentance and Fake!
Your spouse knows when you're genuinely repentant vs just trying to get out of trouble! Here's how: Worldly sorrow focuses on how bad we feel - we want our spouse ...to comfort us and make us feel better! We might say "I'm such a terrible person" but we're actually fishing for reassurance rather than taking real responsibility! But godly sorrow looks completely different - instead of asking your spouse to make you feel better, ask what you can do to make things right! 2 Corinthians 7:10 says "godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation" - it focuses outward, not inward! Stop seeking comfort for your guilt and start seeking ways to heal their hurt! Ask God to give you godly sorrow when you've hurt someone and to change your heart! Share this with someone who needs it! #ChristianMarriage #GodlySorrow #RealRepentance #2Corinthians #TakeResponsibility #MarriageAdvice #BiblicalRepentance #OutwardFocus #ChristianCouples #MakeItRight #HeartChange #MarriageHealing #TrueApology #MarriageMinistry[+] Show More
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Your Spouse Can Tell the Difference Between Real Repentance and Fake!
Your spouse knows when you're genuinely repentant vs just trying to ...
Your spouse knows when you're genuinely repentant vs just trying to get out of trouble! Here's how: Worldly sorrow focuses on how bad we feel - we want our spouse ...to comfort us and make us feel better! We might say "I'm such a terrible person" but we're actually fishing for reassurance rather than taking real responsibility! But godly sorrow looks completely different - instead of asking your spouse to make you feel better, ask what you can do to make things right! 2 Corinthians 7:10 says "godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation" - it focuses outward, not inward! Stop seeking comfort for your guilt and start seeking ways to heal their hurt! Ask God to give you godly sorrow when you've hurt someone and to change your heart! Share this with someone who needs it! #ChristianMarriage #GodlySorrow #RealRepentance #2Corinthians #TakeResponsibility #MarriageAdvice #BiblicalRepentance #OutwardFocus #ChristianCouples #MakeItRight #HeartChange #MarriageHealing #TrueApology #MarriageMinistry[+] Show More
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Are You Upset About Consequences or the Pain You CAUSED?
Next time you hurt your spouse, ask yourself this question: Am I upset ...
Next time you hurt your spouse, ask yourself this question: Am I upset about the consequences or genuinely broken over the pain I caused? Most of us feel bad when ...we hurt someone we love, but we're feeling bad about the wrong things! We're upset because there's conflict, because our spouse is distant, because it's going to ruin the dinner we wanted! Your focus is on how the sin is affecting you, not on the sin itself! But God calls us to godly sorrow - genuine brokenness over how we failed to love! 2 Corinthians 7:10 says "godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation!" This kind of sorrow doesn't just make you feel bad - it makes you genuinely want to change! Ask God to give you godly sorrow and change your heart! Share this truth with someone who needs it! #ChristianMarriage #GodlySorrow #2Corinthians #HeartChange #TrueSorrow #MarriageAdvice #BiblicalRepentance #FailedToLove #ChristianCouples #RepentanceMatters #MarriageHealing #ConsequencesVsPain #MarriageGoals #MarriageMinistry[+] Show More
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Two Types of Sorrow After Hurting Your Spouse - Only ONE Changes Everything!
There are two types of sorrow you can feel after hurting someone you ...
There are two types of sorrow you can feel after hurting someone you love - only ONE leads to lasting change! Worldly sorrow says "I hate that my spouse is ...mad at me" or "I feel bad I got caught" - it's all about YOU and your discomfort! This might make you feel bad but it won't transform your heart! Godly sorrow says "I've sinned against a holy God and hurt someone precious to Him!" 2 Corinthians 7:10 says "godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation!" One focuses on CONSEQUENCES, the other on the actual SIN! Ask God to give you a heart of repentance with godly sorrow and watch how it changes not just your behavior but your LIFE! Stop being sorry you got in trouble and start being sorry you caused pain! Share this with someone who needs heart transformation! #ChristianMarriage #GodlySorrow #WorldlySorrow #2Corinthians #HeartChange #MarriageAdvice #BiblicalRepentance #TrueRepentance #ChristianCouples #SinAgainstGod #MarriageHealing #HeartTransformation #MarriageGoals #MarriageMinistry[+] Show More
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