I have compiled a list of resources that represent the best help for me and my marriage, as well as resources I know have made a difference in many others throughout my many years of experience as coach, pastor, and counselor.
Make sure you get the most out of these by diving into them with an open mind and heard, and a willingness to put to action what you learn.
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Everything is great when you’re in love! But life has a way of turning that down. You start drifting apart, conflicts arise, you get busy with other things, and then you realize the quality of your connection and the closeness you once experienced has diminished. Some couples call it quits and walk away. But you can do something about this.
You can TURN IT UP! and revive your relationship or marriage. TURN IT UP! will give you five commitments to make and five skills to learn that will teach you how to strengthen your connection and grow closer to each other again. When you turn it up regularly, you really can have the kind of marriage you want and have it last a lifetime.
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What Happens When You Say Calm Down to Your Partner?
Join Kelly DuPee, pastor, police chaplain, Christian marriage coach, and author, as he explains why telling your spouse to calm ...down can escalate rather than diffuse tension. Learn seven biblical action steps to respond with compassion and wisdom: listening first, validating feelings, asking questions, offering presence, speaking gently, allowing space for processing, and following up. These principles promote deeper intimacy and stronger connections in marriage.
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Here's the link to Kelly's free Couple's Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide
00:00 Introduction: The Impact of 'Calm Down'
00:24 Meet Kelly DuPee: Your Marriage Coach
00:51 Why 'Calm Down' is Harmful
02:10 Biblical Principles for Responding to an Upset Spouse
02:19 Action Step 1: Listen First, Speak Second
03:12 Action Step 2: Validate Their Feelings
04:34 Action Step 3: Ask Questions to Understand
05:32 Action Step 4: Offer Presence, Not Solutions
06:36 Action Step 5: Speak Gentle Words
07:19 Action Step 6: Allow Space for Processing
08:01 Action Step 7: Follow Up
09:00 Conclusion: Building a God-Honoring Relationship
When your spouse is upset, telling them to "calm down" can quickly escalate things. Instead, practice active listening and show empathy to de-escalate the situation. Focus on marriage and use communication to build marriage strength.
For more on this, check out this video -
How to Stop Defensiveness. Here's the link:https://youtu.be/DUP8wWRew9U
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Books
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Disclosure: I have an affiliate marketing relationship with Amazon. I get paid a small commission if you buy any of the books I recommend by clicking on them from my site. I never recommend a book that I have not read myself and found helpful. The books I recommend have helped me tremendously and I hope they do the same for you.
